Happy valentine’s day

The weather is like the seasons we celebrate each year: always changing and on the go. The joyous Christmas season is way over and people around the globe is looking forward for the heart’s day filled with romance and love, the Valentine’s day! Little we know that Valentine came from not only one person but numerous early Christian martyrs like Valentine of Rome and Valentine of Terni but later associated with Saint Valentine who died on February 14, thus the holiday began.

Since this is the day we celebrate and share our love through cupid-heart- shaped cards, what will be the sought-after Top Valentine’s Gifts for 2010 that can go with it? Chocolates and flowers are the most presentable gift that you can give to the one you adore, with candle-lit dinner and red wine at the rooftop while counting the millions sparkling and glittering faces of the stars and while listening to your favorite theme song or wedding song is superb, an idea that always lead to more intimate and passionate night after a delightful delicacy.

For your parents, spending the whole day helping them on what they’re doing on that particular day is much appreciated especially if they don’t see you often in the house, coupled it with your own designed cards with personalized deep-sea thoughts, feelings and thank you’s will delight them eventually. Finally giving them a hug and whispering to their ears “you’re the best mom/dad in the whole world, happy valentines”, will surely hit!

What about jewelry? It is no-doubt a must for any occasion to share it with, especially this time of the year even if the fashion is always changing, jewelries doesn’t come out of fashion, they are always there to enhance what you intend to project.

An online education inquiry

I’m wondering what I will become if I enrolled in one of the most sought-after way of educating busy-at-work professionals: the online education, whether it be in a criminal justice online degrees or a post-graduate  for IT or engineering, or a new course for architecture or medical transcription, a million and intensified yoga should be done. The thought came during one of my moments with mother of all nature, when I escaped the lifestyle of the city thus returning and isolating myself to the rest of the world. I prayed for enlightenment for the road that I’m going to tackle (not necessarily online education), for all the obstacles that I will face with the path that I’ve chosen, for all the trophies that I’ll acquire after the battle with angels and demons around, that He’ll be with me all the time.

Time and consistency will be my 2 most hamper that I can think of, financially, I can always use my wage, or my penny in the bank. My advantage to get an online education over others is that I’m still capable of enhancing myself through the openness of my mind from the fast and changing world and me being single with no head-turning, weight-pisser responsibilities. Shall I enroll now and not be sorrow tomorrow? Where will I start? I’ll ask for signs.

Knowledge Village, Dubai

The village consists of blocks of buildings allotted to universities, food court (my favorite); government (does it have one?) and private offices. The reason it was called the Knowledge Village (in my opinion) is because of the merging of different universities that has one aim: to educate Emiratis, expats and expats children alike. 

UOWD originated from Australia, as what I’ve heard from Virgin Radio 104.4’s commercial report. Other universities are residing here as well; unfortunately not all of them I got the chance to take a photo. Other universities are Middlesex University Dubai, The British University Dubai and….

From this village I seek job vacancies too through sponsored job-fair a year ago (November 2008), exactly 2 days after arriving at Dubai. I found a job and they immediately acquired my passport copies and were told to report to Abu Dhabi for medicals. As much as I wanted to go there I didn’t. The reason why I came here is to be with her and not be away from her again. Damn, the offer’s good! Anyway there’s no better feeling than be with her all the time, right?

Playing with her 8megapixels pink-themed shock and water proof up to 50m Olympus digital camera, I found out that I still have passion for taking pictures, only, the pictures have no passion for my camera, errr her’s! Someday I will get myself an SLR, am too excited just merely thinkin’ ‘bout it (hoping she gets to her senses and give me one, ooops).

a wedding planner???

They said it would be too toxic to plan for your own wedding, engaging into, and hoping it will turn out the way you wanted it be in the first place. More often than not but not always, the question to answer is are you ready? Ready for a life changing environment, ready for sacrifices, ready for rocket-high patience? Are you man enough for indulgence, intimacy and more romance? I’d like to answer the latter :) This simple yet complicated question will lead you further and deeper into your planning, and by answering this question truthfully, you will advance to the next series of questions.

Of course, the reason why you want a good wedding is you have answered the questions am I financially stable to support my better half and start a new family after the wedding, emotionally drained? (no prepared!), psychologically capable, and the like? If for some reason, there is a 50% lack for each category, better plan and don’t execute (just for the meantime, while you’re preparing yourself!).

The next series of questions are am I going to hire a wedding planner? (That would depend on your capacity to pay the planner :) ), if so, your mind will be at peace (at least for the next couple of minutes), if not, then choose wisely on cheap wedding invitations that are roaming around the place, they are plenty though mostly few are dedicated. Next is the place, do you want a church or a garden wedding? Your sponsors, how many are they? Can they attend to the place you want to tie the knot or will they just send someone as their representative? And don’t forget the type of food you’ll be offering for thanksgiving to Almighty and your visitors, that would include your favorite cake and wine.

Lastly, your motiff. This will set you free for the type of wedding dress/groom’s you’ll gonna wear. That will not be focused only between you and your future spouse but for those people who will enhance your matrimony as well, your principal sponsors down to secondary, until your ring bearer…  Goodluck on your own sink hole!

Divorce because of third party

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce.. I raised the topic calmly.  

She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

  She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce.
She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that everyday for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning.. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife’s divorce conditions.. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully..

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time.. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

  I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead.. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage?

I’d like to give credits who first shared this from facebook, I’d like to share this too, it might change someone else’s lives.

BURJ DUBAI to BURJ KHALIFA

Today at 8pm local time, the tallest building built by human hands will be inaugurated. Lots of fireworks display with matching music to dance with it with the help of laser lights and fountains will eventually make histor. Burj Dubai was the name of the tallest building from the start to finish, but due to economic status of Dubai, at the time of its inauguration, it was renamed as Burj Khalifa, from Sheik of Abu Dhabi. Rumors were heard that Dubai changed it in honors of Abu Dhabi to pay for its debts from the said Emirate.

Savings with CD (certificate of deposit)

My friend is so obsessed about banks, bank deposits, minimizing credits, maximizing debit cards, hmmm time deposits, certificate of deposits, bonds and so forth that she nearly brainwashed me to save as little as a cent daily than to save a huge amount one time then spending the savings once I get to see something of interest to me. She knows that I’m an impulsive buyer; she just wanted me to have a better financial situation once I get old. She said one time, that little amount will become as big as you didn’t intend it to in the future, just keep on saving.  Checking different banks with their offer interest with a specified amount doesn’t convince me to save on them. Commercial banks are not like military or police banks (let’s say a government bank) that they offer limited or lesser interest rates compared to the latter. Now for you to open an account with them, you must be a current enforced officer, or a military personnel’s spouse or children.  I tell you when I say the interest is far bigger than what the commercial banks are offering. That could be the reason why my friend’s dad created an account for each and every child he has (whether legitimate or not) and deposited certain amount for each, and in due time (maturity of the person or for time deposits and/or CD’s) they have something to use. Now checking what time deposit could give me, it’s the same as having a savings account, the only difference is I can use the money and return it back in savings account. What about bonds? I’ll try to research on this further, as I am into it too!

Online gambling

All the information a newbie would want to know about roulette online on casinos are stretched here. The best thing about the site is it influences every body to play online games in a way that no blog has informed all to be careful about signing up, playing and winning. The site is not only into playing games but went deeper on supporting novice to advanced player, it discusses each games together with the benefits you can get out of it.

Journey through another company

Dec 13, 2009. I went to my supposedly next company to submit documents for processing my employment. I am advised to get in touch with my current company to work the visa cancellation out. They need the passport stamp cancelled as they can’t have me until the passport is released from current company (so up to this time, I’m still praying that my visa will be cancelled so I can move on, with regard to the pending salaries from sept-nov 09 including the reimbursements of Dec08, and my annual leave, I will collect them later). My next company is in free zone and they don’t need NOC, they said that they talked to DAFZA about the ban if I will incur one, free zone don’t give a shit (wahahaha a smile on maface!), they’re entirely different from the non-free zone companies.

Then I called Labour department to confirm this: my labour contract is limited, while my internal contract says unlimited after probationary period and I need to render 30 days before current company cancels my visa! Labour said that for

LIMITED contract: no need to render 30 days. UNLIMITED needs to render 30 days.

If my current company will still ask me to render the 30 days (which I hope they won’t), I’ll be asking help from authorities. I don’t want to include Labour in this discussion coz it would take 2 months of going to the court and IH’s services will be temporarily close and I still have friends there that are still looking for their next jobs. I don’t want them to suffer on my behalf even though my current company is a hundred percent f*&%r.

A proper resignation letter even though it sucks

My information
 
December 9, 2009
 
Company information

Dear HR,
 
I regret to inform you that I am resigning from my position as Technical Architect for IH LLC. My last day of employment will be a month from now, January 9, 2010 and I hope that I can use my annual leave during this period.
 
I will be working for a cargo shipment company that is not a competitor of (this failing company) with respect to its services,and looking forward to the new direction of my office career. There I could get better opportunities to grow with my chosen field and be open to a new career development, surrounding and system, even though I will miss my job (and this f*$#ing company).
Thank you for the support and the opportunities that you have provided me during a year of service in this (m*&^f$#5r) company. I have enjoyed my tenure here.

I wish you and the company all the best. I do hope our paths cross again in the future.Pweh.